{"product_id":"only-say-this-because-love","title":"I Only Say This Because I Love You: Talking to Your Parents. Partner. Sibs. and Kids When You're All Adults","description":"Why does talk in families so often go in circles leaving us tied up in knots? In this illuminating book Deborah Tannen the linguist and and bestselling author of You Just Don't Understand and many other books reveals why talking to family members is so often painful and problematic even when we're all adults. Searching for signs of acceptance and belonging we find signs of disapproval and rejection. Why do the seeds of family love so often yield a harvest of criticism and judgment? In I Only Say This Because I Love You Tannen shows how important it is in family talk to learn to separate word meanings or messages from heart meanings or metamessages —unstated but powerful meanings that come from the history of our relationships and the way things are said. Presenting real conversations from people's lives Tannen reveals what is actually going on in family talk including how family conversations must balance the longing for connection with the desire for control as we struggle to be close without giving up our freedom. This eye-opening book explains why grown women so often feel criticized by their mothers; and why mothers feel they can't open their mouths around their grown daughters; why growing up male or female or as an older or younger sibling results in different experiences of family that persist throughout our lives; and much much more. By helping us to understand and redefine family talk Tannen provides the tools to improve relationships with family members of every age.\t\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePaperback:\u003c\/b\u003e 368 pages\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePublisher:\u003c\/b\u003e Ballantine Books (May 28 2002)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eLanguage:\u003c\/b\u003e English\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-10:\u003c\/b\u003e 0345407520\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eISBN-13:\u003c\/b\u003e 978-0345407528\u003c\/p\u003e                                                                                    \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e    Product Dimensions:     \u003c\/b\u003e    5.5 x 0.8 x 8.2 inches    \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eShipping Weight:\u003c\/b\u003e 8.8 ounces \u003c\/p\u003e    \u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Relationships","offers":[{"title":"Paperback","offer_id":31805653745763,"sku":"345407520","price":24.0,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0291\/6296\/3043\/products\/51POjj1oyUL.jpg?v=1576231413","url":"https:\/\/bookhigausopao.myshopify.com\/products\/only-say-this-because-love","provider":"BookHigauSopao","version":"1.0","type":"link"}